The Judgement Page

The Judgement Page  

(How to demanifest someone out of your reality)

The Judgement Page Pre-Collumns (Printable)

If you want someone you dislike to stop being such a pain in the rear, this is the process for you. It is best to complete this practice when at the peak of a powerful, painful emotion. If possible, immediately after being triggered. However, you can use this from people who have hurt you in the past as well. This is a form of shadow work. This worksheet is designed to work with feelings that may include but are not limited to; resentment, jealousy, hurt, hatred, anger, judgement, distrust, annoyance, betrayal, disgust, bitterness, & injustice. 

You can fill out the judgement sheet with a stereotype/group of people in mind (IE,. Karens, Trump supporters, anti-vaxers, immigrants, politicians, celebrities, ect), however, it is more commonly done with one specific person in mind. You know, the person in your family, or at your job, or from your social group, that you simply cannot stand, despite whether others agree. Maybe it’s your high school bully, your mother-in-law, your bff’s squeeze, or a client that just rubs you the wrong way. Maybe, when you look at them, you feel the flames of a thousand burning suns and you roll your eyes, clench you fist, and bite your tongue. You gossip behind their back to anyone who will listen because, I mean, WOW, they really said that? Could you believe them? I hate that I have to tolerate their presence AGAIN! Why do they hang around so much?? Chances are, you have at least one person in mind right now, and you would very much like to never interact with or see them again.   

Let’s get to it. You fill out each column on the page provided, but if you need more room, you may find it helpful to give yourself an extra page or three. You could even use a notebook, dedicating each column to an entire page, 

      Instructions 

• Column A(1): Their traits 
  Using any adjectives you like, describe the subject. Each trait listed as a word or two at most. Do not hold back. Let your hatred flow. This is not the time to play nice or tip toe around the issue. A thesaurus, dictionary, or the almighty Google can be helpful during this step.  
   

• Column A(2): The worst of the worst 
  Look at each trait from A(1) and ask yourself, what is the worst case scenario of each trait? It may be something the person has actually done, but this is seldomly true. Use your imagination and when in doubt ask yourself, “How could this trait make life more difficult?” 

Sidenote: You may enjoy taking a break after filling out column A(1) or A(2). This is not a bad idea, and in some cases preferred, but be sure to come back and complete the rest within a day or two. Otherwise, not only will you not be able to demanifest the person, but in fact, you may find you encounter them with even greater issues.  

 

If you are willing to admit that you simply want to complain about something or someone in your life, and do not wish to resolve the issues you have, then by all means, skip over this and call it done. If your ego cannot tolerate the idea that sometimes, you are the problem, you have no business judging others anyway.

 

• Column B(1): My traits 
  Using any adjectives you think would apply, write down how you think the subject would describe you. Use one or two words to describe each trait. This list would ideally contain about the same amount of traits as column A(1). This step is the hardest for most people to complete. Be sure the traits listed are written from the perspective of the subject, not what you think your negative traits are. 

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Sidenote: Do not ask the subject for their opinion of you. You may want this person to openly judge you to absolve you from guilt of judging them, but it is entirely unnecessary and defeats the purpose of The Judgement Page. However, you absolutely should include characteristics they have previously said to or about you in the past.  

• Column B(2): The worst of my worst 
  Look at each trait from B(1) and ask yourself, what is the worst case scenario of each trait? It may be something you have actually done, but this is rare. Use your imagination, and when in doubt, ask yourself, “How could this trait make life even worse?” 
   

• Column C: What if... 
  Look back at the original traits listed in column A(1). Find something beneficial that you would gain if you were just a bit more like each characteristic you wrote about the subject. Find a minimum of one positive change per trait, no matter how minor it may seem. (Try and list more than one if you can- you may find more than one trait from A(1) would bring the same general benefits to your life.) 

That’s it. Complete the Judgement page as often as you feel a need to.  

DISCLAIMER 

Completing this worksheet once may not lead to the subject(s) in question to spontaneously disappear off of the face of the planet, never to be thought about again. However, their presence may appear less often and/or you may find it becomes easier to deal with them when they are around. The more times you utilize this practice, the more efficiently it works. Revisit your work and add more traits if you need to. Complete this worksheet as many times on the same subject until they demanifest, or you no longer feel a need to. 

The Judgement Page Pre-Collumns (Printable)